Football is back! I am so happy because I love me some football. I actually wish my summer away waiting for those Sunday afternoon games during the crisp fall and winter months. Since I love the game, I took the time to watch NFL Wives this past season. It was disturbing to see how the females interacted with one another, still not able to uplift one another to the full extent that African American females should be doing. It seems there is always a back-stabber in every group, willing to sell completely out in order to get ahead. It is sad, but very true that white women, though they may talk about each other, when the chips are down, they won't go against each other.
Is there a back stabber in your group? Are you willing to let go of a particular clique in order to spread your wings? Or are you stuck thinking you have no way out and you have to suffer through in order to remain likable by the other girls in the clique? Life is too short. Remember, you can do bad all by your lonesome, so cut 'em loose!
Now it's your turn to share! I want to hear what's on your minds!
Growing up in a world where being light would have been alright, was not easy since I wasn't light! I noticed some differences in the way I was treated as oppossed to my lighter-skinned sister. I vowed when I was younger never to show any differernces toward my children in case their shades were totally different, like ours are.
Well, I ended up marrying someone outside my race, and have biracial children. I still make it a point to show the same love toward my children even though they are very different. My suggestion to anyone in a situation where one child is darker than another, especially if they are girls like in my situation, is too never make a reference about skin tone in a negative way. Always point out the beauty in all shades of color and always let them know that African American is African American, from the darkest to the lightest. Take time to spend with each child (which should be done anyway, whether they look different or not), and always create special moments with each of them separately and together.
My new article, "Bleaching Is for Clothes" will appear in the summer issue of Monarch Magazine, available in bookstores Monday! The article talks about the prevalence of skin bleaching in not only the African American community, but also in other non-white racial groups as well. The article also discusses corporate responsibility as well as our own individual responsibilities to rectify the situation.
